Love and Marriage: for better, for worse,
“For better, for worse” What does that really mean?
Of course, it’s easy to live life when things are better, who ever goes to counseling because things are “better”? It’s when things get worse that we need the help.
Life throws many curve balls at us and usually it seems when were down the “slider” comes right for the head. Losing a job, having to move, the loss of a family member, or even the dog, any of these things can throw us for a loop and take us out of the game.
As we come under stress, we reactively take out our frustration on the other person. Both parties must learn to handle the other persons “overflow” of emotion and frustration. The first lesson learned is to understand when those things happen it affects each person differently and how we react can be different as there is different shapes in snowflakes.
In most case one of the other rises up to take the load on the shoulders but even then, eventually every warrior has to have a release. Some of us are quieter and more contemplative while others become very vocal in the midst of the tension. These things last for a short time meaning a loss of Job can take months but it’s not forever.
That’s the key, “it’s not forever”, If
our eyes are off the situation but on God these transitions, which are a part
of life, move us from glory to glory. Unless your being an idiot and allowing the
circumstances to dictate your “mood”. Admit it, some people love to gravel in self-pity,
but our perspective is to be growing in faith not stepping three steps back. I
feel sorry for the couple where the other partner starts moving backwards as if
God is to blame for all of the problems or the blame falls on the other person.
I could tell you to “grow up”, but are they going to listen?
It’s no ones fault that life happens, rains fall on good people as well as bad people. God does not walk around in heaven looking for smug self-confident people to knock down with a loss of a job. Or punish us because we stole a candy bar from the “Honest snack shop” in the break room.
I certainly hope that at the base of every marriage is two people who are really seeking to be the best they can be for the Honor of the person they married, which negates the idea I can be selfish and throw a pity party any time I feel like it so I can get attention.
How we handle it determines if we
are good or bad people. Good people seek to continue to be good no matter what.
Bad people can become good people they just have to see the big Picture,
GOD IS WATCHING YOU EVERY MINUTE OF YOUR LIFE YOU IDIOT SO WHY ARE YOU STEALING CANDY BARS?
Sorry about that but, …
There is no book that makes it easier or teaches you how to change, change can only come by an act of your will. Choosing to act differently, to think differently, and be different is a natural result of pursuing your relationship with God.
That’s it, that’s all there is to it. That’s the secret in life.
2When evildoers assail me
to eat up my flesh,
my adversaries and foes,
it is they who stumble and fall.
5For he will hide me in his
in the day of trouble;
he will conceal me under the cover of his tent;
he will lift me high upon a rock.
6 And now my head shall be lifted up
above my enemies all around me,
and I will offer in his tent
sacrifices with shouts of joy;
I will sing and make melody to the LORD